Autistic, Ace, and dating: A complicated affair

The world of dating is complicated and nuanced. There are unwritten social rules everywhere, and often, unrealistic expectations. I am lucky now to be in a relationship with a fellow ace whom I love dearly, and accepts me as I am, but prior to this, I took 8 years off of dating. Here’s why. IContinue reading “Autistic, Ace, and dating: A complicated affair”

Two identities: The problem common to both autism and asexuality

Both autism and asexuality are identities that are often misunderstood by the general public. Myths abound about both of them, some more harmful than others. There is however one myth in particular that is common to both. This is the myth that both autism and asexuality are products of some kind of damaging/traumatic event. ForContinue reading “Two identities: The problem common to both autism and asexuality”

Parallels: My autistic identity and my asexual identity

I only recently publicly admitted to being asexual. It was a great weight off of my shoulders, although I don’t believe that it was too surprising to anyone who knows me well. Much like my being autistic, it was just part and parcel of who people already knew me to be. There is a distinctContinue reading “Parallels: My autistic identity and my asexual identity”

The impact of no healthy autistic asexual representation

I recently realised that I am on the asexual spectrum. More specifically I am greysexual. This means that I rarely feel sexual attraction, and can go a long time without sex with no issues. Most recently, I went through an 8 year stint of feeling no sexual attraction, and engaging in no sexual activity. PriorContinue reading “The impact of no healthy autistic asexual representation”