5 lessons I have learned in 5 years of sobriety

Today (7th April 2021) I have been sober from drug and alcohol addiction for five years. In that time I have faced many challenges and learnt many lessons. In this piece, I hope to share some of those lessons with you. 1. Not everything will be perfect once you get sober. Addiction is am absoluteContinue reading “5 lessons I have learned in 5 years of sobriety”

Re-earning trust after active addiction

Those of us who have been through, or are currently in active addiction, know all too well that very few people trust us in the early days of recovery. To an extent it’s justified. We cheat, lie, and steal to meet the requirements of our addiction. But what happens when a person stops using? WhenContinue reading “Re-earning trust after active addiction”

[GUEST POST] Dating my way back to healthy

Written by Sarah Snow CW: Suicide, Rape, Cancer, Intimate partner violence After leaving an abusive relationship, I developed a plan to create healthy relationships as a way to heal past traumas. I was determined to never choose another situation where I would give away my power to someone else, and by using my background asContinue reading “[GUEST POST] Dating my way back to healthy”

Lessons I have learned about trauma

I haven’t spoken extensively about it, but my life has been one of extensive trauma. Not necessarily one consistently traumatic experience (although I’ve had my share), no, I have been- as most would put it- very unlucky. I have rolled from one traumatic experience to another. These traumas set the stage for my mental healthContinue reading “Lessons I have learned about trauma”

Emotional Sobriety: the crux of recovery

The journey through recovery takes several important steps. First you must stop engaging with your addiction, in my case, stop using drink and drugs. Next you must learn to live without your addictions. Then, you need to create a life where it is easier not to go back to your addictions. There is, however, anotherContinue reading “Emotional Sobriety: the crux of recovery”

Society and its relationship with alcohol

This one is a spur of the moment post. I just read about Macmillan’s “Go sober” campaign to raise money for people affected by cancer. In principle this is a great endeavour. People drinking less is great for public health, and it’s raising money for a worthy cause. You can understand then why I wasContinue reading “Society and its relationship with alcohol”

A moment of temptation: Overcoming a mind that seeks to destroy itself

I have written a lot about making the decision to seek sobriety. What I haven’t talked about is the moment when I realised I was in this for the long haul. Roughly three years ago, I had an accident. I can’t really remember the details of the accident, but it appeared that I had fracturedContinue reading “A moment of temptation: Overcoming a mind that seeks to destroy itself”

Parallels: My autistic identity and my asexual identity

I only recently publicly admitted to being asexual. It was a great weight off of my shoulders, although I don’t believe that it was too surprising to anyone who knows me well. Much like my being autistic, it was just part and parcel of who people already knew me to be. There is a distinctContinue reading “Parallels: My autistic identity and my asexual identity”

The impact of no healthy autistic asexual representation

I recently realised that I am on the asexual spectrum. More specifically I am greysexual. This means that I rarely feel sexual attraction, and can go a long time without sex with no issues. Most recently, I went through an 8 year stint of feeling no sexual attraction, and engaging in no sexual activity. PriorContinue reading “The impact of no healthy autistic asexual representation”

Simple acts of Radical Kindness: Maintaining my own wellbeing

As those who have followed my writing will know, I have a number of complex mental health issues as well as being an autistic addict in recovery. I am coping with the fallout of those mental health issues more often than not. For this reason, I have had to develop a toolbox full of copingContinue reading “Simple acts of Radical Kindness: Maintaining my own wellbeing”