How the shame cycle barricades us from recovery

They say in life that nothing is certain, but if anything is, then it’s the fact that shame will deny us entry into recovery. I’m going to consider this from the perspective of addiction recovery, although it applies to recovery from any psychological trauma. I merely choose addiction recovery for this article because it makesContinue reading “How the shame cycle barricades us from recovery”

Addiction advocacy and the inspiration paradox: A reflection at 6 years sober

Today I am 6 years sober from addiction. During those six years I have learnt many lessons, but in this reflection I would like to consider something that has played on my mind for the past three years of my advocacy work. Inspiration. While not overtly a bad thing, it is often misused to infantiliseContinue reading “Addiction advocacy and the inspiration paradox: A reflection at 6 years sober”

Autistic people, substance use, and vulnerability to exploitation and county lines

This article was co-authored by David Gray-Hammond and Katie Munday Trigger warnings: This article discusses gaslighting, trauma, criminal exploitation (on various topics including sexual exploitation), substance use, mental health, cuckooing, county lines. Due to the extensive trauma that we experience as Autistics in our formative years, many of us find ourselves seeking connections with otherContinue reading “Autistic people, substance use, and vulnerability to exploitation and county lines”

Creating Autistic Suffering: Ableism and discrimination

This article was co-authored between David Gray-Hammond and Tanya Adkin Trigger Warning: This article contains discussion and examples of ableism and discrimination against Autistic and disabled people. Mentions the R-Slur. When you’re first confronted with the word “ableism”, it seems a bit abstract and unreal. This is because it is so ingrained into our societyContinue reading “Creating Autistic Suffering: Ableism and discrimination”

Creating Autistic suffering: In the beginning there was trauma

This article was co-authored between David Gray-Hammond and Tanya Adkin Trigger Warning: Some of the research quoted in this article contains person-first language or references to aspergers. While the authors do not agree with the use of such language, we must access the research and statistics available to us. We are also aware that someContinue reading “Creating Autistic suffering: In the beginning there was trauma”

The renaissance of ableism

Edit: I am in no way saying that Autistic researchers work is tokenistic in this post, I am trying to talk about how studies such as S10k claim to have included Autistics in the planning of their studies purely to try and justify unethical research. It seems with each passing day there is a newContinue reading “The renaissance of ableism”

Autism, addiction, and my need for control

I have learned a great deal about myself through self-reflection over the last 5 years of sobriety, but one lesson was considerably difficult to learn. I like to think of myself as a friendly and generally happy and fun person to be around, but the truth is that I need control. I need control overContinue reading “Autism, addiction, and my need for control”

[GUEST POST] Dating my way back to healthy

Written by Sarah Snow CW: Suicide, Rape, Cancer, Intimate partner violence After leaving an abusive relationship, I developed a plan to create healthy relationships as a way to heal past traumas. I was determined to never choose another situation where I would give away my power to someone else, and by using my background asContinue reading “[GUEST POST] Dating my way back to healthy”

Lessons I have learned about trauma

I haven’t spoken extensively about it, but my life has been one of extensive trauma. Not necessarily one consistently traumatic experience (although I’ve had my share), no, I have been- as most would put it- very unlucky. I have rolled from one traumatic experience to another. These traumas set the stage for my mental healthContinue reading “Lessons I have learned about trauma”